Monday, August 13, 2012
Encouragement: You Are Not Alone
On Saturday, we went out as a family to the shops in the local "downtown" area. Normally, I'd have loved this. I mean, I enjoyed most of it. The cute knickknack antique shops. Being with my husband who I hadn't seen much of in the last two weeks. The great weather. My own son kept acting up though. By the end of the 2 hours or so, I was so worn out from trying to help my husband discipline him while keeping track of the other two kids. My mind went to the poor woman at the register. She is not alone. I am not alone.
I say this because I do it also, it is so easy to get wrapped up in our own world and frustrations and duties as wives and mothers that we forget all the other women going through the same exact thing. I know full on how some women feel when, at the end of the day, they collapse into bed and shed a tear or a full sob. Being a wife and mother is tough. It's not easy. Never has been and never will be. I am NOT down playing the man's role in the family. "Heavy lies the crown." And I don't feel like wearing the crown. But while the husband is out providing for the family, the wife is at home taking care of the rest. Even as I write this, I'm pretty tuckered out. My body is tired, my mind is tired and more often than not, my spirit is tired. Sometimes, I'm either crying or screaming. Often, I don't have the energy for either. But I'm not the only one.
When I was going through some serious emotional issues, some pretty intense depression, I found that meds didn't work, "therapy" didn't work, ignoring it didn't work... Other than prayer, the only thing that REALLY drew me out of my funk was focusing on helping others. I'm not saying that this will fix my weariness as a mother. But it will help lift the spirits. And usually, when the spirits are lifted, the body and mind feel better too. Encouraging other moms and letting them know that they're not alone in the journey of motherhood is going to be something I'd like to focus on from now on. Not making it my top priority, but up there. I think it's important, part of who we are as women, to help our friends. To build others up. To be a support system. Recently, another mom has been encouraging me. She probably doesn't even realize that she's been doing it but it has been so refreshing to me to know that she is going through some of the same things that I'm going through, feels the same way I do about certain things. It made me realize that I can do the same for other moms. Friends, family, strangers. Doesn't matter.
I'd like to suggest that you, moms, start encouraging another mother. That you start pouring out your heart a little to let her know that a) you're there and care and b) that you're dealing with some of the same tough stuff. You can send an email. Make a phone call. Send funny little comics (or I think they're called memes or something like that? lol, what are they called?). Just do it. Leave your own pitty party long enough to lend a shoulder or hold out a hand or offer a little laugh. You need it just as much as they do.
I love getting comments so if you have any suggestions or tips on how to encourage other mothers, or even something that you find encouraging... Shoot, if you need some one to pray for you as you deal with the ins and outs of motherhood, feel free to share and know that you'll be prayed for.
Hope you have had a great Monday!