Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Let Them Eat Toothpaste!
My daughter is a budding artist. I can tell you this because I spent HOURS scrubbing crayon off the walls upstairs. I scrubbed so hard that I scrubbed the paint right off my walls. I will NEVER buy non washable crayons again. I was told that I shouldn't "let" her have crayons upstairs. I have never allowed her to take crayons upstairs. However, kids are pretty stinking sneaky. I used to bring my uneaten sandwiches home from school and I would hide them in a desk drawer in my bedroom. I didn't feel like getting yelled at for it. Stupid me. I REALLY got yelled at for it when my parents eventually found them... MONTHS later. Some could say to my parents, "You shouldn't have let her take her lunch box into her bedroom." Um, I'm pretty sure my parents didn't know. It wasn't something that they'd thought was an issue.
My son is going through what I'm praying is a phase where he tells me "NO" and "DON'T" on a regular basis. Some have told me that I shouldn't "let" him do that. I've gotta tell you. I can't express how much this bugs me. I don't let him say it to me. He just says it. And he gets punished. I've tried different punishment tactics. But I don't "LET" him. Some parents do. They completely allow the disrespect. I don't.
I didn't LET the baby eat a cookie yesterday. One of the older children took it into the living room (something else I don't LET them do) and left it on the floor. The baby, who is full force crawling now, got to the cookie before I realized what happened and lets just say that I was cleaning up soggy cookie off the floor and out of her mouth.
I don't LET my daughter jump on our couches. In fact, she gets in trouble EVERY time she does but for some reason, it doesn't stop her from doing it over and over. I don't let my son throw die cast cars off the balcony, or let me kids eat food off the floor or lay in the dirty dog beds or pick their noses till they bleed. They just do it. And when they do, I respond in a manner that I see fit for the situation. But I'm not LETTING them do these things.
I LET my kids sit at the table and color all day long if they want. I let them mix the different play dough colors together because its nearly impossible for them to keep it all separate and it's fairly cheap to replace. I let my kids eat popcorn in the living room only when its a movie night. I let the baby crawl all over the place to her heart's delight unless she heads near the dog beds. I let my dogs eat table scraps... in their bowl during their specific feeding times. I let my husband paint a room of our house in the Georgia Bulldogs colors. I let my kids have candy when they're really good.
There's a ton of things that I let my kids do and just as many things that I don't let them do. Each person parents differently. But I do not LET my kids eat toothpaste.
There's a lot of things that I am and a lot of things that I'm not. I'm A Wannabe Supermom. I'm not there yet and it'll be a long time until I'm not a wannabe any more. However, I'm not a bad mother. I'm simply a mom. Kids do crazy things when we turn our backs for a moment to respond to one of life's many demands. Perhaps I'm being a little huffy by getting slightly defensive in response to some one telling me not to "let" my kid do something that's potentially harmful to him but any mother (or father) will tell you that kids will sometimes do things whether it's something we've "let" them do or not. This Wannabe Supermom will continue taking each day one at a time along with all the random craziness my children will throw at me.